Hopelessness.

.Sometimes it happens so that we are completely hopeless, we don’t see any path and just see darkness all around. Yes, it happens so in everyone’s life. We just feel that we are useless and can’t achieve anything in life.

But the question arises, “Why we feel so?”The answer is very simple. It happens so when we are continuously striving for something, continuously praying for something, putting all the efforts but still not achieving it. If you feel so , congratulations you are a human and your emotions are intact. There is no stigma in getting disappointed. Being humans we all do. Being humans we all lose hope very easily.

But what we do after losing hope is important.Because Allah has advised us in Holy Quran,

۔ ” ( میری جانب سے ) کہہ دو کہ اے میرے بندو! جنہوں نے اپنی جانوں پر زیادتی کی ہے تم اللہ کی رحمت سے نا امید نہ ہو جاؤ بالیقین اللہ تعالٰی سارے گناہوں کو بخش دیتا ہے واقعی وہ بڑی ، بخشش بڑی رحمت والا ہے ” (الزمر:53)

Now the question is what are our feelings when we are hopeless.

1. We start thinking that Allah doesn’t love me because I am a very sinful person that’s why I am not getting what I want and will not get anything in my life.

2. We start losing believe in miracles in dua and our dua lose the passion and faith. We don’t pray with faith because deep down we start thinking that my prayers will not be answered.

3. We start complaining, why me? Why not others? Why only I have to suffer? Why I can’t get what I want? It start affecting our relation with Allah.It happens so with every human , because being human this is our nature to start complaining when the things are not happening according to our desires.It’s okay to get disappointed but it’s not okay to lose hope completely and just stop doing the efforts.

Now it’s important to think that what should be done to keep the hopes alive and keep striving.

1. Keep faith in Allah’s plans:

Even when you see the darkness all around and apparently don’t see any path, still keep faith . Just keep reminding yourself that Allah knows what’s best for you. We can’t decide what’s best for us. It’s a huge possibility that what we desire for us is not best for us . So just think for a while how Allah can bless us that thing which is not best for us.

“تم پر جہاد فرض کیا گیا گو وہ تمہیں دشوار معلوم ہو ، ممکن ہے کہ تم کسی چیز کو بری جانو اور دراصل وہی تمہارے لئے بھلی ہو اور یہ بھی ممکن ہے کہ تم کسی چیز کو اچھی سمجھو ، حالانکہ وہ تمہارے لئے بری ہو حقیقی علم اللہ ہی کو ہے ، تم محض بے خبر ہو ۔ ”

(البقرہ216)

2. Stop comparing yourself with others:

Next solution is that stop comparing your life with others. You don’t know the struggles and difficulties in the lives of people. You don’t know how much efforts they have put to achieve a particular thing , so don’t compare yourself with others.

3. Learn gratitude:

When disappointment is at peak and shaitan is continuously misleading you , start appreciating all the blessings you have. Start acknowledging all the blessings and start expressing gratitude. Make a list of your blessings and start reading the list aloud to yourself to remind yourself how much Almighty has blessed you . Start looking at the lives of lower class people. Just realize how difficult their lives are, still their faith . And we thankless people just start complaining if we don’t get a thing . Alas!

“جریر ، ابومعاویہ اور وکیع نے اعمش سے ، انھوں نے ابوصالح سے اور انھوں نے حضرت ابوہریرہ رضی اللّٰہ عنہ سے روایت کی ، کہا : رسول اللّٰہ ﷺ نے فرمایا :’’ اس کی طرف دیکھو جو ( مال اور جمال میں ) تم سے کمتر ہے ، اس کی طرف مت دیکھو جو تم سے فائق ہے ، یہ لائق تر ہے اس کے کہ تم اللّٰہ کی نعمت کو حقیر نہ سمجھو گے ۔‘‘ ابومعاویہ نے کہا :’’ ( وہ نعمت ) جو تم پر کی گئی ۔‘‘

( صحیح مسلم:7430

4. Never weaken your connection with Allah:

No matter how much life gets difficult, how much darkness is all around, no matter how much hopelessness prevails in life, never stop offering Salah, reciting Quran pak and doing Zikr. Always keep your connection strong with Allah . Keep praying, keep striving and just keep remembering Allah because it’s only the Zikr of Allah which will give the comfort. Never let shaitan astray you by putting disappointment in your heart.

5. Remind yourself that best is waiting for you:

When you don’t get what you want, start reminding yourself that Allah will bless you more than what you ask. Allah will bless you the best thing! Allah will bless you which you have never imagined. Allah will never leave you alone because Allah loves you more than seventy mothers. If Allah is making you wait, then trust His plans , surely best is waiting for you!Never ever think that your Allah don’t love you. Believe me your Allah loves you without any condition. Your Allah loves you without any expectations. Your Allah will always bless you with the best . Your Allah is listening to your every dua. Your Allah is preserving your dua , so just keep faith , keep going and keep praying. Never get diffident of Allah. The whole world can be against you, your own parents can be against you but your Allah can’t be against you, can’t leave you alone!!May Allah always keep us on His path and help us to keep faith in His plans when we don’t understand the wisdom behind His plans.Ameen.

Written by Muskan Malik .