My Hijab story I am practicing wearing scarf from very young age when I was 2-3 years old probably as family is somehow interested in Islamic teachings. But as I grew old my guardians didn’t allowed me to practice abaya because they thought me choti height ki wja sy bchi lgti hn abaya pehn k bht bri lgti hn… I tried to practice abaya in matric but no one allowed me so I just contented on replacing scarf with chadar. As I went to college I again insisted on doing niqab wearing abaya, I had a mature discussion with my guardian father and the discussion ended up with his point that its up to me what I want to do because I’ll be answerable to Allah SWT. His that words were like an energy dose for me and I thought mission is successful and now I can do niqab but then I realized no mission is not successful, what about my male teachers jinhn n mjhy dekh rakha h? unhn n dekha to hoa h mjhy ab kya ho skta h mery niqab krny ka kya faida , but Allah SWT put a thought in my mind that not to focus on such things and statement of my heart was that Allah k lye naik kam krny lgi ho Allah rasty khdi nikal dy ga in sha Allah so I put on a niqab from the next day and from here the actual journey starts my fellows saying zyada khobsorat ho kya?, teachers to bap ki jaga hn un sy kesa prda and I sometimes ignore such things sometimes I be like sarak p jany waly uncle b meri abba ki omer k hn… lrky meri bhaion ki jaga hn to kya me ksi sy b na krn, is bat p khamoshi e milti thi jawab mn… In my viewpoints I was doing niqab and that’s it but then on many recommendations I started reading Jannat k Patty novel by Nimra Ahmed and I consider her my teacher who taught me a new prespective and then I realized that prda cousins sy b ho ga Khalo sy b ho ga, phopha sy b ho ga all the namehram rishty and I decided to do it properly and many from my family come against me… They are like bachpan sy tmn goad mn khilaya h ab tum mun chupati ho (bhai bchpn mn bchon k sath sb hi khelty hn ab is bat p Allah ka hukam na manyn) and some are like that tum hmary husband sy prda kro gi to hmary lye masly hngy hmara ghar toot jay ga…. They make it a proper issue on every gathering and end up complaining my guardian father (those who have suffered from this can feel how it seems like when you are taunted on a thing which is not a bad thing ) but Alhumdulilah my guardian father has been very supporting to me, when I started my college life he said beta ab apki zndgi me esy mawaqy b ayn gy jahn ap ko ap k galat hny p ni blky thek hny p shrminda hna pry ga… and the situation is same but alhumdulilah he said to everyone who complained to him that me usy acha kam krny k lye to keh skta hn lekin agar wo kch acha kr rhi h to usy us sy rok ni skta… my bry baba said to me k koi bat ni ghar mn na kro but I clearly told him that I can’t leave it, I have emotional attachment with it now. Its not possible for me to leave it. Gradually the comments on my niqab get lesser but still exist. As I come to know more about prda I come to know that someone sked a sihabi how to do prda and he covered himself with a chadar in such a way that only his left eye was uncovered and he was covered from head to toe in his chadar, I started wearing gloves and socks (also I listened commenting someone on the beauty of feet of a niqabi female) on this another series of comments started even from niqbi sisters but alhumdulilah that Allah SWT blessed me with steadfastness and I kept doing what m doing. Now m university student and as usual the comment that jinho n kch bura krna hta h wo chupati hn khd ko, ahista ahista utar jay ga jb university ki hawa lgy gi , etc. goes on. I can’t forget to mention my friends here who were not niqabi or hijabi but they supported me at every place like I have to drink water but there are males near , wo mery agy khri ho jati thn, toors p functions p hr jaga they searched for a safe place probably the corners for me where I can eat properly. The most common comment that I faced is jb shadi ho jay gi to chorna e pry ga susral mn 100 msly hty hn, shohar krny ni dety hn r ye b k esy hr ek sy mun chupao gi to rishta kon kry ga (its answer is present in Message for others section)
Message for others
You are doing hijab or not doing hijab or niqab don’t be a stress factor for those who are practicing it. If you are a niqabi or hijabi facing difficulties in the way remember you are doing this for Allah r Allah haq rkhta h k uski khatir esi baton ko ignore kr diya jay. If you are practicing niqab but not sharia niqab go for it Allah will ease the situation for you, is duniya mn sb log Allah k matehat hn r Allah logo k dil palatny p qadir h, wo apki support k lye b ksi ko khra kr dy ga jesy mery guardian father ko meri support bnaya alhumdulilah If you are just doing this on road and not from the males who are in your family functions, college, school or university believe me they are males too. People will never stop taunting but just they become tired schooling you and the comments become less with time, one comment which will be always be with you is bht deeth h ye, koi bat ni esy deeth bnny mn koi burai ni h If you are not doing hijab just because ap ka sans bnd hta h ya grmi lgti h to shuru mn mera b sans bnd hta tha (me male teachers ki presence mn mun neechy kr k jahan sy me nazar na a skn niqab neechy kr k thori der sans liya krti thi but alhumdulilah mjhy adat ho gai phr r ab esa ni hta) r jb grmi lgti h to yad dilayn khd ko k jahanum ki grmi sy zyada ni h ye grmi R sb sy mushkil bat ya khadsha jo niabis k rishtedaron ko llg jata h k shadi kom kry ga to yad rakhyn jo Rabb ap ka dil niqab k lye khol skta h wo kya ap k mojoda shohar ya mustaqbil k shohar ka dil b khol skta h, wo ap k spouse ko ap ka niqabi supporter bnany p qadir h Thing to remember is k ye jism ye chehra hmn Allah n diya h hm sy koi b mawza liye bger, hmn n Allah sy mang k b ni liya ye to ye hmary pas Allah ki amanat h, r amanat malik ki mrzi k mutabiq rkhi jati h uski hifazat ki jati h, usko malik ki mrzi k khilaf sb k lye khol k nhi rkh diya jata.
Jazakillah Khair
written by : IQRA
